Soul mates... the one thing that plagues every breathing human at one time or another. Let's delve into this head first, shall we? The first thing to understand about soul mates is that we all have them and they are EVERYWHERE!!! A soul mate is someone you have a connection to. They are someone you have a lesson to learn with and from and throughout the course of your lifetime, you are going to meet so many of them... but if you don't get the daydream of hollywood's definition of a soul mate, you are never going to really be able to appreciate them! Let's go down the list, shall we? 1) Your Parents- yes, it is true, your parents are your soul mates. They are the most important soul mates of your early childhood because it is from them that you learn where to look for soul mates. Your relationship with your parents forms the foundation of the soulmates that you attract to you throughout your lifetime. They influence who you are attracted to, and how you interact with them when you attract them to you. Imagine that... something else we can blame on dear old mom and dad.... 2) Your siblings/cousins- in addition to your parents, your siblings and cousins are the first people you socialize with. They help form how you interact with other people you will meet throughout your lifetime. Especially if they are older than you... as they have had more access to the outside world and help prepare you for school life, and the cool things you will wear, say, do, etc.. when you finally get the chance to meet other people!! 3) Your friends- your friends sometimes become a part of, if not closer to you, than your family! You feel such a connection to your friends that you would be devastated if they moved away, or if anything happened to them. This kind of connection is not without importance... and it is very much a soul mate connection! 4) Your teachers- Love them, or hate them, you do not ever forget them! They cracked your hand with a ruler, got you grounded for telling your parents you didn't do your homework, lectured you for cheating and taught you everything they could to prepare you for life. Your teachers are huge influences... admit it, you are right now thinking of that one teacher who you could not imagine surviving that grade without... 5) You Lovers- I saved this one for last, because the rest needed to take a higher place. Seemingly everything you do in your life leads up to that one point... where you find that special person, you settle down, and share your lives together... seemingly forever, and they just make your heart do tricks you never knew were possible. You become physically ill at the thought of them no longer being in your life... this is the one who you place the most importance on because this is the only soul mate you believe to be a soul mate.. Think about it for one moment. Your entire life becomes consumed with this one person to the point of forgetting to spend time with your friends, ignoring your parents (because they did not approve), and losing contact with the outside world. Everything you did up to this point seems to not matter, because you have found your other half... the one you cannot ever live without... and then it happens... They do something, leave thier socks on the floor, forget your birthday, toss out your favorite top, burn your dinner, or become ill for one reason or another and become a burden to you rather than the blessing you were so hopeful for in the beginning... A SOUL MATE is not supposed to do this....right???? Well, think back at how many times your brother made a mess and you got blamed for it. How many times did mom go completely berzerk because you came home late or went out without cleaning your room? And dad... he was always at work and could not show up for your play... your best friend began dating that guy she KNEW you had a crush on... (grrrr) All of the soul mates in your life throughout your life have been preparing you for the person you are planning to spend your life with! So see, it is not so much that your lover is your soul mate, as it is that your lover is the culmination of all the soul mates you have met in your entire life. When it comes to focusing on your life and how you are looking for your soul mate, think again... because what you are REALLY looking for is a conglomeration of all your soul mates into one person... and how you feel about your soul mates will dictate how you feel about the person you choose as a life mate!