Timing

September 26, 2011

You know how they say “Timing is everything”? Well guess what… that is not always the case. You see, asking WHEN something is going to happen—ESPECIALLY when it involves the attitudes/behavior/inclination of another person—is like expecting a cat to welcome you home with open arms as if they care you are there at all. There is this little thing called free will, and it is not a pretty thing when we want someone to do something within a certain timeframe. Sometimes they will, but more often than not, they are not going to. But there are more things going on than looking at WHEN someone is going to do what it is you are wishing them to do. The typical headache is when will someone call, or do something we want them to do… Now let’s focus on “when will they call”: There is usually a REASON why someone cuts off communication. This is an extreme action that happens for an extreme reason which involves the person who is cutting off communication for the purpose of dealing with the extreme situation. During this time of duress, a lot of decisions are made that do not make a lot of sense to anyone but the person making the decision… and sometimes not even to them, once they have cleared their head, that is. As a result: intention and desire can be there to pick up the phone, but motivation due to depression, distraction, frustration, or any number of other things can cause them to not follow through on what is happening. See, just because they have decided that they want to clam up, their other obligations do not stop coming… and when they are not motivated to do things properly everything seems to kind of become overwhelming, and they get behind on what they WANT to do because they are behind on what they HAVE to do. Where I (or someone like me) comes into play in looking at when such a thing is going to happen there are many layers of things that I have to look at when looking at possible timing. First, the person asking the question has energy around them such as: depression, frustration, anxiety, fear, and the strong desire to hear what they want mixed with an almost paralyzing terror that they are not going to hear what they want to hear. And that is just scratching the surface… Looking through all that to another person who has withdrawn their energy for a variety of reasons that are unknown to you, there is even more digging to do because sometimes that person does not want anyone to know what is going on with them…or they would not be shutting down in the first place. To give you an idea think about a group of toddlers who have not had their morning nap OR lunch and someone walks in with a bunch of candy and YOU have to tell them all no…pretty difficult, and not something you want to do, eh? Then the added pressure of doing this in the smallest amount of time possible as to be conscious of the money that you are spending to receive this information only makes it even more fun! In considering all of the components that go into looking at WHEN something is going to happen, sometimes, even the best of us can only venture into this arena with the energy as it feels at the time. This is not something we LIKE to deal with at all as our first interest is that of how to help those who come to us in need and we want to know when just as much as you, however we are all at the mercy of this wonderful gift called free will, and this is not going to be our friend when there are so many variables to consider.

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